"Woman in the Mirror"

Michael Jackson sings….“I've been a victim of a selfish kind of love…It's time that I realize..that there are some with no home, not a nickel to loan…Could it be really me, pretending that they're not alone?”

Daily we can see so much hate in this world. From our loved ones, co workers, strangers, or maybe even ourselves. This blog is all about making that change that starts with US. Spreading LOVE instead of hate. We can’t control others but we sure can control ourselves. We can improve us and be as awesome as we decide to be. 

Have you ever felt that it is impossible to love someone that has hurt you? I have been there. This could be as simple as the person that pulls in front of you at the intersection, the person that takes your parking spot, or as intense as the person that hurt you to your core. What do you do in these situations? This can be as deep as the time my mother said she would never leave me again, but yet again she left me over and over again. Micheal Jackson sings…. “I'm gonna make a change for once in my life…It's gonna feel real good…Gonna make a difference. Gonna make it right” I’m that change!!!! I choose love.

Love Approach? I say take every approach with love. Why? Because what ever you send out you get back. So if I decide to get mad when that person cuts me off on the road then more things will continue to come my that I decide to be mad about. Yep. Anger is a choice just like love is a choice. I can be angry at my mother. I can respond in any way I decide. Right?

Can you replace a negative response with love? Yes, yes, and yes. How can you do this? Here it is. My mother hurt me in ways that are unimaginable. Should I be angry? Or really the question is should I stay angry? Nah…It isn’t worth it to me. I love my mother despite her mistakes. It is a choice because holding that negative energy is not worth it to me.

In that moment....Choice? We have a brief moment before an emotion hits us. In this moment we get the opportunity to choose our response. Have you felt this moment? Yay….this is so empowering and beautiful to me....the power of choice. 

What do you do? The next time something happens that makes you upset STOP and think about how you got to the emotion. In that moment you can decide not to be upset and instead give love towards whatever is upsetting you. Look…you don't have to agree with the person, but try putting love towards the situation.

Does this make me a push over? Gosh no. Stand up for you, speak out, and be you. Just do it with love. Try to take all the anger and upset out of it and then it is easy to respond with kindness. I have done this in break ups. I have broken up with someone in a loving way. Just because you use love doesn't mean you stay in a toxic relationship. I don't have contact with my mother...my choice. But I still love her. Never have I hated her and I never will. I just love me and my kids to much to allow certain things in our lives. 

I am set free by giving love. Why be like so many? I know we see them daily. People walking around upset and mad at the world? They spend so much energy taking their anger out on the world by hurting others. Being mean and unkind gets you no where? Yeah I know...the ones that are so mean, but are rich and successful? But ask yourself...is someone truly successful without love?  I would rather give kindness then hate and make it to the top any day. When I see these people…you know the ones I’m talking about? I just treat them with love vibes. I do me and be me. Love is my jam. Why make their problems yours? When we send love so much more love flows our way. So awesome, right? 

Set yourself free and try this love wins concept? You in? Let me know your thoughts and how this shift works for you. The shifting from emotional toxic responses to just giving love. Also remember that this will be a transition. Don’t be hard on yourself if it’s a bit tough at first. Once you get the hang of it you will be on a roll! Micheal Jackson sings ….“I've got to make that change, today!” Watch out world here we come!!! WE will be that CHANGE! Love wins!

See you next time Warriors!

Luv Always,




Katherine Kirby6 Comments